R.I.P. – Sajay Nair
In ushering the new year, I was brought bad news. I was in Indonesia surrounded by family and friends. While unknowingly my dear friend whispered his last goodbye. He was a person with a dream. A person with a heart. Never stopped teasing me, but always managed to keep me smiling. Always the heart of the party. Some might think he was too noisy but he was just trying to lighten the mood up.
Dear Saj,
I still remember the times when you used to call me names. Suzie. Optus-zoo. Suzie-poops. Sue-sue. etc. I always acted as if I was mad, so as to stop you saying that in public, but it made me warm in the heart hearing you call me those names. It made me feel closer to you somehow. Made me feel as if we were somehow connected.
I also recollect the times where you were my manager at work. Those were the fun times. How proud you were when I made my first sale. How you brought me to door after door, practicing what you preach. I was in awe of your charisma and the confidence you displayed. It was like nothing I had ever seen.
I also remember the times where you would treat me to dinner even though you were broke. I would insist on paying but you would insist the same. How you cared about how my brother was doing. Helped me through some real tough times. We spoke for hours on hours at times talking things through, sorting each other’s thoughts. You even forced me to ride on the back of your bike. I was screaming but all you said was “Hold tight and you’ll be fine.” It was a scary ride but also a ride I would never forget.
I spoke often of you to my other friends. Even though you didn’t know them. They know you dearly. How I wish you could have had an impact on them too. Infect them with your cheerful attitude towards life. I knew behind the smile and gung-ho you were the sweetest most gentleman guy I have ever met. You cared about those around you. You made an effort to make everyone happy, even though it sometimes meant that would make you unhappy. I wish somehow I made a difference in your life too.
You were a brother to me when I was at my lowest. Picking me back up on my feet. I am sorry for not being there for you at your last moments. I wished you hadn’t been in Kerala when I went to Brisbane. I wished things were different. I wished I had the chance to say goodbye.
From the bottom of my heart. I love you as a brother. May you rest in peace. And keep everyone up in heaven happy as you did on Earth.
Sue
Oh NO!!!!!!!!! He had an accident or what??? This is so sad…..he’s a nice guy.
Yeah sucks… Feel so sad… Haiz… No it wasn’t an accident. Some vein in the brain burst. There was really nothing much anyone can do about it. Still sucks thou.
oh my god. this is sucks. no one would thought this could happen lor..
Yeah… I don’t know… Guess we really have to live life to it’s fullest. Some things just happen when we least expect them to.
hi sue,
it was so nice to read your thoughts.you are right about sajay,he really cared people and loved every one of his friends.
my brother always believed that life is precious and have to be lived in full.we need to carry that message through each and every one of us.
he suffered from a berry aneurysm which ruptured.this is something he was born with and would have happened some day.god made sure he ws in a safe place and he went in peace.
he got to spend quality time with my parents and us this time in kerala which has been a blessing.
always remember..sajay is looking down at us…..he lives through all of us.
sanil
Hi Sanil,
My deepest condolences for your loss. Sajay was a dear friend. We will all miss him dearly.
If I am not mistaken you are Sajay’s brother who resides in Sydney? He spoke often of you and your family. It seems like I already know you. He said that you were a doctor. He was very proud. Also he often mentioned his niece who he believed will go on to achieve great things in life.
Although it was something that could have happened any day, I only wished I got to spend more time with him while he was here with us.
I truly believe he is in God’s loving hands now. All the best to you and your family.
Sue
Hi Sue
Very tender and true words about Sajay. He did always go out of his way to cheer up people around him. He once treated me also for my birthday although he was penniless as a pauper. He had a great heart. He will be missed dearly.
Ginish (Melbourne)
omg, this is sad. i know u two were really close friends.. my condolences~
Yeah… This is too sudden. That’s why I somehow can’t comprehend it. Feel very very pained by this.
Saying good-bye is always difficult, especially when they are someone close to u and young too.. Talk to someone about ur feelings when u needed.. And only think of all the good times that u have with him.. i’m sure being such a good person he is, he wouldnt want anyone to feel miserable becoz of his pass-away.. take care~
sajays body will be taken to kerala on the 11th.the religious rites would be performed on the 12th.
sue,sajay lives through all of us.follow his example…spread the word of love.he is still travelling..only in another world.he is happy.remember the happy moments you shared…the kind words…..
i am happy to have so many happy moments with him.
i can never say good bye to him…some day..we will have a drink together again
This is a beautiful piece Sue. Thanks for writing it. I just received word today here in London about Sajay and I am deeply saddened. We were really close friends for many years before I left Oz and only just in 2009 we caught up again and I was delighted that he still the same wonderful, kind, generous and funny guy I had always remembered. I wish I had also had the chance to say goodbye but I love that he’ll be watching us.
My thoughts are with his family over in Kerala during the religious rites ceremony.
RIP Sajay.
Angie